If you don't want to give in, you have the choice to say NO.
When someone asks me, why I did something I regret, my answer seems to be always, "I did not have a choice." All of us are absolutely unbelievably arrogant of our ‘choices'.
There are times in our lives where we are given a choice & also not given one simultaneously. I guess I have always gone with the flow. Not attempting to mend the situation and understanding what others feel. I was striving to be more 'empathetic' like how cool people say it nowadays. I want to think I'm empathetic but how far do we stretch the notion?
When I glance at my life, there are so many instances that pop up which are according to me, quite critical as I remember them vividly right now. Almost all of those scenarios had me making decisions that I didn't agree with initially, to be honest, I made them because someone wanted me to or to please others or to avoid hurting their feelings or ego. It took me many years, kilos, greyer hair to realize how wrong I was. One doesn't have to simply agree or disagree to please their loved ones or because they are obligated to. One should do whatever they feel is correct, right, positive. Most importantly, be satisfied with your own decisions. Forget right or wrong, the fact that it is your decision alone is paramount.
However, don't we all know that you are not supposed to do things or make decisions based on what other people think or not think? Knowing is never the same as comprehending. Trust me, it is difficult, as every single person you know will have an opinion about your life and it will bother you even when you don't act on it. It is impossible to break this vicious cycle that begins with people telling you what to wear, how you should wear it, what to eat, how to look when to get married when to get a job when to have kids - You got the gist, the list is infinite. And how many times do we let this affect us? Every. Single. Time.
Out of in-built peer competitiveness, we are trained to say NO to a lot of impractical things. But within our insecure selves, there lives a tiny part of us that is terrified of making decisions and are petrified of getting them wrong. Maybe all this stems from that insecurity snowballing into a voice in our head, that convinces us that we are not as sensible as some random acquaintance. Just because you are young, doesn't make you immature and certainly doesn't make you incapable of making the right decisions. Even if you take a wrong turn, learn from it and make a wiser choice next time.
Life is a journey. Don't Pause or skip parts. Live it. (I know it is easier said than done, yes! But take it from someone who has realized that I got to live my life for myself & not anyone else. Self-love will take time but you will get there).
When I glance at my life, there are so many instances that pop up which are according to me, quite critical as I remember them vividly right now. Almost all of those scenarios had me making decisions that I didn't agree with initially, to be honest, I made them because someone wanted me to or to please others or to avoid hurting their feelings or ego. It took me many years, kilos, greyer hair to realize how wrong I was. One doesn't have to simply agree or disagree to please their loved ones or because they are obligated to. One should do whatever they feel is correct, right, positive. Most importantly, be satisfied with your own decisions. Forget right or wrong, the fact that it is your decision alone is paramount.
However, don't we all know that you are not supposed to do things or make decisions based on what other people think or not think? Knowing is never the same as comprehending. Trust me, it is difficult, as every single person you know will have an opinion about your life and it will bother you even when you don't act on it. It is impossible to break this vicious cycle that begins with people telling you what to wear, how you should wear it, what to eat, how to look when to get married when to get a job when to have kids - You got the gist, the list is infinite. And how many times do we let this affect us? Every. Single. Time.
Out of in-built peer competitiveness, we are trained to say NO to a lot of impractical things. But within our insecure selves, there lives a tiny part of us that is terrified of making decisions and are petrified of getting them wrong. Maybe all this stems from that insecurity snowballing into a voice in our head, that convinces us that we are not as sensible as some random acquaintance. Just because you are young, doesn't make you immature and certainly doesn't make you incapable of making the right decisions. Even if you take a wrong turn, learn from it and make a wiser choice next time.
Life is a journey. Don't Pause or skip parts. Live it. (I know it is easier said than done, yes! But take it from someone who has realized that I got to live my life for myself & not anyone else. Self-love will take time but you will get there).
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